So it has come to my notice that the fastest way to get some respect in Nigeria is to be married...
Yesterday, I was going home from a lovely outing and I happened upon a quarrel scene at a major bus-stop. I usually avoid any sort of scene in Lagos or anywhere at all. A friend could be fighting and I would walk past because I wouldn't even look (my friends are too cool for such nonsense anyway) I continued walking, even faster, but I couldn't help overhearing the heated exchange, mostly because they were shouting and not because I was listening.
"Useless man, you think you will play with me?"
"See this stupid woman, who do you think you are talking to?"
I heard more in these lines but the one that caught my attention, on a negative note, was
"Madam easy o, this is a married man you are talking to"
That was quite lame but of course, I didn't see myself telling the man who made the statement that.
This incident reminded me of one time I travelled by road from Enugu to Lagos. At one of the Terminals where we stopped for people to alight, the driver of another bus decided to fill up our bus with his own travellers. I would not have minded, except that they were many - the women had at least three children apiece. The bus fast became inconvenient and unfortunately I vented my anger on the woman closest to me as she kept dumping her luggage on my cramped legs.
Another woman sitting immediately in front of us took it up and lit into me. I don't know if I appeared unmarried (is it written on the face?) too young, or she saw my bare ring finger (I doubt that) but she lashed-
"Don't you know it is a married woman you are talking to like that?"
I won't go into the exchanges I had with her but I let her know that marriage isn't synonymous with respect. Respect is earned. Even babies are and should be respected.
I don't know where these people are getting their education, because I see a lot of educated illiterates... everywhere... too much for comfort.
This is just one of the many unnecessary issues we have in Nigeria.